Confession: We have a nursery in our house.
When we moved into the house, we set aside one of the three bedrooms as a nursery. I didn’t want anything to go in it. I was so sure that we would be decorating it soon for a baby and I didn’t want to end up putting a bunch of junk in there that we would need to find new places for when a baby was on the way.
When we received our infertility diagnosis, our view of things changed. The “nursery” became the spare bedroom. We let some things get piled up in there–but it mostly just has books lining the walls. The books are waiting for shelving we plan to build in our office, a project that will almost surely be completed before we have a baby.
Then we read a book called The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson. My mom gave it to me in February when she and my dad came for a visit. And DH and I read a chapter each night together until we finished the book. The book is all about prayer–powerful prayer. It’s not about getting what you want from God. It’s more about getting what God wants for you by dedicating yourself to praying more consistently and with more intention and focus.
I don’t really know how to explain it, but after reading that book we decided to rechristen the room as the nursery. DH and I have made a habit of going in there every night to pray specifically about our hope for a child, asking God to mold our desires to his, and telling God that we have planned this room as a nursery and that we will keep asking for his blessing in that room until he directs us in a different way. We read prayers or Bible verses and we add our own prayers. Sometimes we stay in there for just a few minutes. Sometimes much longer. We say we are using the nursery as a prayer circle.
Before I only ventured in there if I was looking for a book. Now we go in every day. It used to feel haunted, and there is no baby there–yet. But I have come to enjoy having a place that helps us focus our prayers.
And perhaps one day the nursery will be used for a baby of ours. Or perhaps God has another plan. We’ll have to wait and see what he intends for us. In the meantime, I am so grateful to have a God who hears our prayers and who cares about our desires. And I trust that his will is best for our life, even if things turn out differently than I think I want.
Is there something you want to pray more intentionally about? What do you do to focus your prayers? Is there something I can pray for you? I’d be honored to join you in praying for God’s direction and peace in your life.
June 29, 2013 at 2:15 pm
Wow. So many IF women struggle with the infamous nursery. This is the first I’ve heard of someone treating it as you guys have. What a great idea and how awesome that God has worked in your hearts through it. Love!
June 29, 2013 at 7:55 pm
Thanks! Been thinking of and praying for you lots lately. Hugs!
June 29, 2013 at 10:16 pm
We have a nursery too .. well, a mostly empty room at least. 🙂 Thanks for sharing about that book! I am going to check that out!
June 29, 2013 at 10:31 pm
I hope you enjoy the book. We found that it has deepened our prayer life. Hope our nurseries have babies in them soon! 🙂
June 30, 2013 at 3:36 pm
I’ve got a nursery complete with crib and changing table. Oy! Love love love the thought of specifically going in there to pray though. I’ll be praying for you in there too! xo
July 1, 2013 at 1:21 am
I remember the beautiful furniture you have from the post where you talked about it. I hope praying in there helps you as it has helped us! I am praying for you each day and thank you so much for continuing to pray for me!
July 1, 2013 at 8:25 am
Yes that’s right! It finally made its way to our house a few months ago… I’ve thought about doing a post about it, but can’t seem to find the will to take pictures of it actually in my house, in said “nursery” haha. Not sure how successful I’ll be, but I’ve decided I’m going to try to make it a point to go in there and pray everyday, whether it’s for five minutes or an hour, I want to do that, thanks again for the idea!
July 20, 2013 at 12:28 pm
Love this!!! God is good! Love your faith in your nursery. That is awesome!